Our Founding Sponsors
Stable Moments™ wouldn’t exist without the support of our Founding Sponsors. The gracious people who saw the vision from the beginning!
The Pate Family
There are reported to be over 14,000 children in Georgia’s foster care system. Twenty eight years ago, I was one of those kids. Fast- forward to today and you will find me now as an average mom to biological and adopted children. As with every woman who chooses to mother children, there are times of joy and frustration. Adopted children can be even more challenging to parent. Many adopted children have the added struggle of dealing with their feelings of intense shame and abandonment. Often, they don’t even know that they have this struggle. They just know they don’t feel worthy of happiness or love, so they sometimes intentionally and other times unintentionally sabotage the family’s attempt to connect with them, give love to them, or just get through the day with no tears, from the child or the parent. That can be a tall order for a child who feels that their emotions control them, whose behaviors are unpredictable and are often harmful to themselves and others. This is the story of my own adopted child.
Now what? You do what you would do for any child God has given you. You go into mother- bear mode and you find every occupational therapist, speech therapist, physical therapist, and even a family therapist that will benefit your child. But, what about the money for all of these programs? Yes, the money often runs out, but then you do what mother- bears do; you fight, you search for another place. Stable Moments is that place. Stable Moments is a free program that partners foster or adopted children dealing with trauma from their past with horses to offer them a stable relationship. The child comes to the stable once a week, every week, to spend time with their special animal friend and human volunteer. This time provides not only the child with a moment of rest, but it also provides a moment of respite for the parents, too.
As a child, I told my cats and dogs my secrets and found companionship there. I believe it was because God gave me my own “stable moments” as a child. I had no person trained in trauma like Rebecca Miller to oversee my time with the animals, but the animals still did a great thing for me. Now, my child through Stable Moments benefits from time with her horse. Time to tell secrets, to tell struggles, or just to fully relax into who she is. I am so grateful that I get to be a part of this priceless, free program that is worth millions to my family and others. I know first-hand it seriously helps the entire family. Oh, what a great gift it would be if every stable were to have a similar program. I hope to see it happen.
– Rachel Pate, Founding Board Member of Stable Moments
The McCarn Family
We have been a part of Stable Moments since it was founded. Our foster sons, biological brothers, are provided with an opportunity to take care of animals. It’s their favorite part. It’s an additional opportunity to learn about trusting adults. Arriving at Stable Moments each week is a wonderful chance for the boys to feel a part of something special. They are called by name and welcomed. Belonging matters to these boys and this is one very important place to them.
As a family of 7 with busy suburban life, the drive to the farm and visiting the farm is a great time to rest and be with each other. It provides great opportunities for us to talk and enjoy each other’s company.My daughter has gone with us each week too. She is 10 years old and has also been really drawn to learning about horses and animals you find on a farm. She looks forward to being old enough and trained to be a volunteer for Stable Moments one day.
There is a little something for everyone even if it’s just enjoying watching the way the sun sets. It’s important for us to find ways to connect with other families on a similar journey and friends who understand. Everyone wants to feel like they belong. It really matters. We all feel like we belong at Stable Moments!
I grew up in a stable home with loving parents who cared for me well, but the one thing they couldn’t love away is my cerebral palsy, which mostly affects the fine motor skills, coordination, balance and movement. I always needed help to do simple things that in my mind that any “normal” person could do easily. As I grew older and started to babysit, I came to the point of being fearful of being a mother. What if my baby needs something and I can’t physically help them? What if I hurt or drop my baby? That fear turned into acceptance that I would never be a mother because I physically couldn’t. That was one obstacle that I just thought I couldn’t overcome. That fear has stayed with me until a few weeks ago.
I made Tuesday my day to go to the barn and have a small respite from life. I didn’t have to think about the next interview, or the company that had rejected me, or the other company that never responded back. All I had to focus on was riding, the smell of the horses, and the feeling of purpose I had with Jesse (the horse). I remember the day when I felt like I was ready to trot but I was scared. What if I fell? But I tired and I was able to trot and post. I was elated that day and texted Rebecca “I feel so confident in myself!” Which got me thinking, if I did more than I ever thought I could with riding, couldn’t I do the same with motherhood? What the riding had instilled in me was confidence and strength, both mentally and physically, in myself with cerebral palsy. Stable Moments has truly changed my life in a way I could never imagine and that distant, image has become a face-to-face reality that I hope will blossom and grow and continue to reach more families, children and people like me in the future.
– Melissa Adams