The Belonging Wound in Foster & Adopted Children

Why would a child reject the very connection they desperately need?

In this episode of the Stable Moments Podcast, Rebecca Britt explores what she calls the Belonging Wound—a deep belief many children develop after experiencing abuse, neglect, foster care, adoption, or developmental trauma.

When a child believes they don't belong, that wound can show up in surprising ways. One child may push everyone away. Another may become a people pleaser. Some act like they know everything, while others become perfectionists or completely change their personalities to fit in.

These behaviors may look different, but they often come from the same core belief: "I don't belong."

In this episode, you'll learn:

• What the belonging wound is
• The difference between belonging and fitting in
• Why children reject connection before they can be rejected
• Why some kids become know-it-alls, people pleasers, perfectionists, or chameleons
• Practical trauma-informed responses for each presentation
• How consistent relationships help children heal developmental trauma

Whether you're a foster parent, adoptive parent, mentor, teacher, therapist, CASA volunteer, or child welfare professional, this episode will help you see behavior through the lens of trauma and belonging.

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