Stable Moments Trauma Blog

Structured BUT Flexible for mentors for parents for program directors Oct 26, 2022

Being both flexible and structured are big parts of the Stable Moments model…but wait, how can you be flexible AND structured?

The truth is, kids, and most humans need a whole bunch of...

My Response to Hate Mail for mentors for parents for program directors Sep 07, 2022

I got my first hate mail, attacking the Stable Moments model saying we're causing more trauma by allowing people who aren't credentialed to work with kids with complex trauma needs.

In this...

Healed People Heal People for mentors for program directors Jul 20, 2022

A ping of anxiety shot through her chest. She could feel anger expanding from the pit of her stomach. She was pissed and felt like she wasted her time and was pretty certain she would be quitting...

This Work Is Hard for mentors for program directors Apr 01, 2022

This work can be frustrating. Whether you're a parent, a caseworker, a program director, or a mentor - working with complex trauma is well...complex. Caseworkers can be intrusive and demanding....

Never Got a Chance to be a Kid for mentors for parents for program directors Feb 16, 2022

Many of the kids we work with learned to put their needs last. They are what the clinical world calls "parentified" meaning they had to take care of themselves, their siblings, or sometimes even...

Why Horses? for mentors for parents for program directors Sep 21, 2021

Most of us can attest to the fact that animals are healing in nature. Lots of people, who hear about Stable Moments, mention how therapeutic their dog or cat is for them. Although I agree that...

Now More Than Ever for mentors for parents for program directors Aug 22, 2021

Schools being open is imperative for our country's vulnerable youth.

Roughly 5 million children in the USA experience domestic violence in their own home each year. We know those numbers are...

What Paper Towels Taught Me About Trauma for mentors for parents for program directors Aug 14, 2021

I used to work with a guy who would, after washing them, shake his hands off in the sink and then wipe them on his pants. I didn’t think much of it at first, but over years of working with...

Being a Safe Person for mentors for parents for program directors Aug 11, 2021

We've all heard the term "safety first", and especially while working with horses it's an important rule. At Stable Moments safety does comes first, but it goes much deeper than physical safety....

Getting Clear on Your Calling for mentors for parents for program directors May 15, 2021

How many times have you associated your calling with your career? That's okay, we all have. We are conditioned to. Our society focuses so heavily on the "what do you do," question rather than...

Dealing with Lying for mentors for parents for program directors Apr 22, 2021

One behavioral response to childhood trauma is lying. Many foster and adoptive parents report lying as being a major problem with their children, and it is important we validate the parents while...

Why I'm Hard on Volunteers for mentors for program directors Jan 20, 2021

The brisk air nipped Ava’s cheeks as she jumped out from her foster mom’s car yelling, “Ms. Sandy, I’m here!”

I smiled and walked over to Ava. “Whoa look at...

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